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To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thousands of people who help people all over the world. Each week they'll explore tools, insights, and stories to help you lead and live with more clarity, calm, and connection. If you’re looking for support as you grow your organization’s capacity for caring for staff and the community, we would love to be part of that journey.
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“Why wasn’t I good enough?”: Walking Away from What Wasn’t Meant for You
In this heartfelt episode, Jessica turns toward a question many of us have wrestled with: Why wasn’t I good enough? Drawing from her own experiences with rejection, criticism, and seasons of struggle, she reflects on how painful moments can shape our identity, hold us back, and make us doubt our worth.
Jessica invites listeners to reframe those experiences not as proof of inadequacy, but as protection from what was never meant for them. Through stories, encouragement, and gentle guidance, she reminds us that we are enough exactly as we are, and that our unique light and purpose are needed in the world.
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Blog Post:
- Why Traditional Employee Wellness Programs Fail (And What Works Instead)
- Survive Mode: Recognizing When Your Organization is in Crisis
- What are the Five Ives?
Podcast:
- Can't Sleep, Can't Think? Resetting Rhythms That Rule Your Day
- Taming Transitions: Tiny Rituals That Calm Big Shifts
- Spaces that Regulate
- Part 2: Regulation in the Real World
- Part 1: Regulation in the Real World
- How to Get Kids to Cooperate without Power Struggles
- What Happens When Consequences Backfire
- Helping Children Catch your Calm with Nervous System Regulation
- Part 2: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Part 1: Behavior isn't the Problem
- Hive- The Last Stage of the Five Ives
- Thrive- The Fourth Stage of the Five Ives
- Strive- The Third Stage of the Five Ives
- Revive- The Second Stage of the Five Ives
- Survive- The First Stage of the Five Ives
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- Behavior Breakthrough
- Policing Under Pressure
- Board Governance Training
- University of Pennsylvania Behavior Breakthrough Accredited Course
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