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Why Freeze State Happens in Two Different Ways (and Why it Matters)

Lauren Spigelmyer Season 4 Episode 52

Ever felt completely stuck in the face of stress—unable to act, speak, or even think clearly? Or do you find yourself saying “yes” just to avoid conflict, even when you don’t want to? These are nervous system responses—freeze and fawn—and they’re not just habits, but survival strategies.

In this episode, we’re breaking down:
  -Why freeze happens in two different ways (and why it matters)
- How fawning keeps you stuck in people-pleasing mode
  -Simple, actionable steps to shift out of these patterns
Your nervous system isn’t broken—it’s doing what it was designed to do. But with the right tools, you can teach it a new way forward.

If you haven't already, check out Five Ives to see how strategies like this can be applied to adults, especially in the workplace. Five Ives works with staff in high burnout jobs to help them incorporate regulation strategies into their daily routines.

Try at Home Tip:
Think about if you are a sympathetic freezer, a parasympathetic freezer, or a fawner and think of one micro practice you can integrate when either you feel it and you're reacting to it or to prevent it from happening.


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